LADIES TAKE SOME RESPONSIBILITY. The man who fathered your children didn’t just start drinking or taking drugs. He didn’t suddenly start having an unstable career or being a little bit of a dreamer, or having trouble with faithfulness. You KNEW those things when you had children with him.

Put yourself in HIS SHOES for a moment. He may be struggling with his own demons. The women on this board want to have children, whether in or out of wedlock, and have NO RESPONSIBILITY for their decisions. Before entering the relationship did you take responsibility for thoroughly vetting your prospective mate? He may have believed he was something he wasn’t. He may not’ve been ready to be a father. It was your responsibility to use your head, to make up your own damned mind and live with the consequences. Yet even now you continue to insist on your right to “follow your heart”. It was YOU who chose not to exercise your good judgement. Now afterwards you want to hold him solely responsible for the way YOUR life turned out.

The women here may also want to escape any LIABILITY for upholding their end of what is essentially a RELATIONSHIP CONTRACT. During the relationship did you keep up your end of the bargain? You say you don’t want to cook for any man, you don’t want to keep his house clean, or his children well cared for. You don’t want to give him respect in his own home. You only want to service his sexual needs at your whim and then feel free to give your sex to other men. Guess what? The answer may be no.

This country’s feminized value system may say its appropriate for you to demonize your children’s father in front of them and the whole world on the internet as you have, but consider the effect on your children. You understand the benefit to a child’s soul of showing charity to strangers in need, so how can you justify teaching a child to not to look past the shortcomings of their other parent and to find some way to appreciate them unconditionally? How can it help a child’s self esteem to tell them their parent doesn’t love them? You as an adult are in effect telling your child they’re unlovable. Children can’t protect themselves against such constant criticism from an adult. It gets in their heads and defines who they are. Is that who you want your child to be?

So you chose this path, and after it didn’t work out, rather than taking responsibility for finding a graceful compromise you went and got the entire might of the family court to attack your ex and work him over. With odds in the justice system stacked heavily against men, you probably had no trouble beating him in court. You believe the fact the judge agreed with you means that justice was on your side. OJ says the same thing. But who cares anyways? Now you can slander him online.

The feminized family court laws may say its fair for you to take all his money regardless of what financial condition he’s in. Well America has always had unjust laws and there have always been people who’ve resisted them. You put him in a situation where his back was against the wall and he had to decide between on the one hand taking whatever active role in supporting and nurturing his kids that he’s capable of, or on the other hand escaping persecution from the government. Think of your kids and don’t put him in that position.

The situation you all are in comes down to a problem of a lack of RESPONSIBILITY combined with a sense of ENTITLEMENT. You refuse to take any responsibility for choosing a man, for choosing to have children with him, for not upholding your end of the bargain in the relationship to keep him upholding his, and then after the relationship is over you feel you are entitled to have him take care of you and your children with no right to a relationship with the children and no say in the children’s upbringing.

You are looking for Captain Save a Ho. Real men want something back for taking care of you. Real men want to have a say in the lives of their own children. Guess what? Any dude trying to come off like he doesn’t is probably playing you. So keep talking back when your man asks you to get him a sandwich. Keep being manipulative when he wants a little tail. Keep denying visitation or turning the kids against him. You’re teaching your sons that investing in a woman and in a family isn’t worth it because it can be taken away at any time. You’re teaching your daughters to behave irresponsibly in a relationship and to expect to be taken care of. You’re teaching them to find the same type of dude you’re bawling about on this board. The one who introduces himself as Captain Save a Ho but in the end has more women and does less to support them than Don the Magic Juan.